A recent dinner with a friend reasurred me of how much I hate rumors. Especially those which concern "us."
We had this agreement to have dinner together since we were free earlier than usual today. Picked a restuarant, sat down. We ordered, chatted a bit.
Friend:"So, tell me what have you heard about me?"
Me:"Your gossip? You mean the gossip that's about you?"
Friend: "Yeah, I want to know what people say about me."
Me:"Oh... so... um... how's that rosemary chicken you have, good?"
Friend:"Don't dodge the question! Just say it!"
Me:"Well. you know. well."
Me:"Okay, okay. well, I only heard some things about you..."
So the conversation continued. I told her about what I had heard about "her gossip."
And she told me what really happened. Surprise surprise. None of it was true!
To be honest, if it wasn't for a good friend that Ryan and I have, I wouldn't even know this new friend at all. And if she didn't ask so directly about the gossip, I wouldn't even have known the truth (not that I really care one way or the other). But rumors do snowball as they are spread. Scary!
And surprise surprise, I asked the same question in return and found out some really unbelieveable shit about "myself." I got the chance to tell her what really happened, too!
Oh well, I guess everyone has a past. But what is frightening is that people might formulate opinions of me simply from the "gossip" past that circulates and I would never know!
I know that if I say I will never gossip about people again, I'd be a big fat liar. But somehow this conversation over dinner really made me think. Before we said bye after dinner I asked her a favor: "Please be sure to ask me anything you are curious about next time you hear it!"
There was one thing I should have told her but I never did: "I really appreciate you for being so open with me. And I think I know you more now than I would have ever expected."
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honest guy...we can't never stop being gossip if we are still human being... I will keep this in mind...when i am curious about u, i will ask u directly, haha...will this make u feel i am a friend lor...
I don't think it's 'human' to gossip! On the contrary! =D Whatever I say about a person, I usually make sure that I can say it to the person face-to-face. Otherwise, it's not worth saying much, is it? =D
PS: I started a new blog! But it's not looking promising - it only has one post so far. :-)
i have always appreciate honesty. Being direct and talking face to face actually save lots of time and energy! Totally agree with you, this is also something that I've learn from dealing with business people here in the small town of Hualien.